“If I whine enough….Maybe People will LIKE me???”

This one has been a long time in coming……….

#Chris_Exeris Recent rant about not being paid 2014-03-15 at 10.13.05 AM

#Chris_Exeris Recent rant about not being paid 2014-03-15 at 10.13.05 AM

The sad truth is this isn’t the absolute worse of Chris Exeris’s patently unprofessional whining (Which is part of the reason why h’s no longer a part of Mindless Faith, the first band he created…..).

No, it gets MUCH worse……… Screen Shot 2014-05-03 at 12.27.06 AM Previously we spoke about how Chris, like many narcissists, used compliments to manipulate others, and does so quite effectively, it has seems, however, as you can see, this is another ploy Narcissists use to gain what are known as “Flying Monkeys”, which are another version of “Narcissistic Supply”

However, We are getting ahead of ourselves, aren’t we? In the exchange above, you see the other way an Inverted Narcissist, such as Chris Exeris, will puff up their increasingly fragile egos. Besides the link in the sentence above (there are links in every single one of our posts, here on NPL) let’s give an explanation of an inverted narcissist:

“Inverted narcissists are codependents who emotionally depend exclusively on classic narcissists. Narcissists and inverted narcissists are, in many ways, two sides of the same coin, or “the mold and the molded” (Sam Vaknin) – hence the terms “mirror narcissist” or “inverted narcissist”. Inverted narcissists are much rarer and harder to identify than the boastful, arrogant “classic” narcissist. Surprisingly for a narcissist, the inverted type is self-effacing and/or introverted.”

I will say from personal experience that I disagree with two points above.

  1. That they are very rare. I feel the number of them has been increased, due to several societal influences

  2. It neglects to utilize Sam Vankin’s assessment, which is that the inverted narcissist is, themselves, a narcissist Since he coined the classification, he should know.

But let’s get back to the point at hand. One of the ways a narcissist, or inverted narcissist, such as Chris Exeris, manipulate others is in the playing the victim role, as can be seen above. “But”, you may ask, “If they are always needing to be in the dominant role, if they are always manipulating you, how does being a victim benefit them?” Well, it seems that playing victim, and I know this from experience, as Ania Anicca / Ania Ziolkowska did this all the time, the flip flop, the yo-yo, from victim, to dominance, to victim, it is merely another manipulation:

“Another way that the narcissist’s ego gets special attention is through the role of being a victim.

Welcome to the victimized extreme narcissist.

Most persons recognize ego as arrogance. At the same time they fail to see the subtle deception of ego when it takes the role of a being a victim. As kind and compassion-driven human beings, we easily are fooled by this form of extreme ego. We are constantly hearing the voices of the needy in the media through a variety of forms. The disenfranchised, the poor, the homeless, the hurting, the refugees, the abused, and the list goes on. What we often do not see is that we are many times shamed by these voices for not doing enough for them. All along it is easy to be manipulated as we respond from our hearts. The deception of the ego is that the narcissist can hide behind misfortune and victimization in order to shame you into feeling and believing that they suffer more than you do.

They will say that you don’t care enough for them.

They will make you feel that you have not done enough to help them.

The ego wants attention, control, gain, and power over others by positioning itself as a “poor and helpless” victim. It does this; all the while it soaks up the attention and control over others. In the eyes of an extreme narcissist, their situation is always right and totally justified. Instead of taking responsibility for self and consequences, the extreme narcissist tries to make others feel responsible for their plight. Because extreme narcissists are incredibly adept at the game of manipulation, they will always find a way to turn the tables on you.

They will try to make you responsible and feel guilty for not helping them or taking their side and cause. ~ Samuel Lopez de Victoria, PhD

As we can see by the description above, we must recognize that Chris Exeris (Christopher Michael Sevanick) hit’s all the red flags of an inverted narcissist that quickly adopts the victim role in order to manipulate others. And this has served him quite well.

It’s gotten him a stolen relationship with a rent free home in Poland, hasn’t it?

And that’s the point. Just as he manipulated praise out of everyone in that thread above, he manipulated Ania to provide him his haven. Now, we must realize she always planned to hook someone, more than likely Chris, to come back to Poland with her, to be the breadwinner, so she could be the “housewife”, not required to do anything at all, however, Chris, realizing this, has completely flipped that script upon her, and is definitely taking advantage of the situation.

“Sometimes your narcissist may play at being ‘victim’, needing you to reassure and console, and at other times he may take center-stage as the ‘rescuer’, to be admired and praised.

And while you are trying to keep up with the narcissist as he changes roles in this game, you also have to continue to change roles, in an effort at self-preservation.

When he is the victim, you must be the rescuer. When he is the rescuer – he needs someone to rescue.

You must seemingly always play the flip-side to his narcissistic character of the moment.”

Of course, we have already established that Ania is also an Inverted Narcissist, therefore this is a game of whom is actually using whom. The reality is Ania has the “control” because the home in Poland is hers, left to her by her family, after her grandmother died (all she really wanted out of her grandmother in the first place), while he has an almost equal amount of control by being the one that comes back to the USA to try to make money, occasionally, so they can take advantage of the 2 to 1 exchange rate of Poland. And we must also recognize that by the same instance, the psytrance culture he associates in, made up mostly of Eastern Europeans (Primarily Russians, though there are some Polish), is also a vipers nest of Inverted Narcissists, preying and feeding upon one another, but it is Chris (and maybe Ontonca) and Ania that have always used the victim ploy, as a way to manipulate these flying monkeys for them. We shall visit upon how Ania also manipulates others for narcissistic supply, and has since childhood, in upcoming blogs, the sheer and utter hypocrisy of ALL narcissists (and spiritual narcissists), as well as how they, as does all of psytrance culture, support Israel in the mass murder of civilians in Gaza. Until next time…….

 

Empathy and Lying

This example is fraught with hilarity in it’s morbidity.Screen Shot 2013-05-04 at 4.27.11 PM

One must ask, when one has full knowledge of the abuses that one’s wife has put someone through, the constant unprovoked physical attacks, the racial slurs (Ania Ziolkowska is white and Polish, and I am black by appearance, but Ania would call me an “Ignorant ass nigger” out of anger, unprovoked, never an apology), the public humiliations in front of mutual friends, a decade of hurt, tolerated for “love”…..

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Chris Exeris, Chris Sevanick, Sociopath

WHY WOULD YOU IMMEDIATELY GET IN AN ADULTEROUS RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS SAME WOMAN WHILE SHE IS STILL MARRIED TO SOMEONE THAT WAS SUPPOSED TO BE YOUR FRIEND????

This is a perfect example of both the cognitive dissonance and hypocrisy present in the modern New Age Yoga and Spirituality movement.

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There is a game of play – acting, showing one side but actually living another.

Ania lied her way to Poland, then India (emails from Ania to me are to follow) claiming to be learning to be a better wife, while pregnant with our child.

Ania then silently returned to the United States, visibly obvious that she has gone from her Zero size to a losing baby weight size, and promptly got into a relationship that would gain her status.

But where is the child?

Where is MY child?

What empathy is there in THAT?

I’ve come to understand that New Age and yoga followers do not actually understand the meaning of the word.

And that, among so many other fallacies, is where we have walked all over the traditions we claim to live and follow.

What we practice is NOT what the original vedantas state, the Yama’s and Niyama’s.

There is no “Right Speech” or “Right Action” in acts such as that.Screen Shot 2013-05-04 at 4.37.44 PM

And yet we will find ways, with silver tongues, to explain away our transgressions, vainly and narcissistically, while having no tolerance for the transgressions of others.

No EMPATHY.

Sadly hilarious.
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Update –

It seems that Ania Ziolkowska is now publicly advertising her adulterous relationship status.
Let us not forget that, with no finalized divorce on record, this is still, in fact, ADULTERY.
(Poor little fool refuses to live in reality…..)

Ania Ziolkowska is advertising her adulterous relationship status

Ania Ziolkowska is advertising her adulterous relationship status

Of course she’s probably doing this so that people she meets in Poland and wherever will think she’s “famous” because she’s dating a celebrity……laughable at the “celebrity” status, but…..small minds…….

Conversely, Chris Sevanick (Chris Exeris) does NOT publicly advertise their relationship status to anyone except “friends” (people he poaches for his “narcissistic supply”)

Chris Exeris / Chris Sevanick doesn't publicly advertise he's in an adulterous relationship with Ania Ziolkowska

Chris Exeris / Chris Sevanick doesn’t publicly advertise he’s in an adulterous relationship with Ania Ziolkowska

Though this is entirely conjecture, we can only believe that this signifies trouble in paradise, if Chris has demanded that she make this “Public”.
Only time will tell.