This one has been a long time in coming……….
The sad truth is this isn’t the absolute worse of Chris Exeris’s patently unprofessional whining (Which is part of the reason why h’s no longer a part of Mindless Faith, the first band he created…..).
No, it gets MUCH worse……… Previously we spoke about how Chris, like many narcissists, used compliments to manipulate others, and does so quite effectively, it has seems, however, as you can see, this is another ploy Narcissists use to gain what are known as “Flying Monkeys”, which are another version of “Narcissistic Supply”
However, We are getting ahead of ourselves, aren’t we? In the exchange above, you see the other way an Inverted Narcissist, such as Chris Exeris, will puff up their increasingly fragile egos. Besides the link in the sentence above (there are links in every single one of our posts, here on NPL) let’s give an explanation of an inverted narcissist:
“Inverted narcissists are codependents who emotionally depend exclusively on classic narcissists. Narcissists and inverted narcissists are, in many ways, two sides of the same coin, or “the mold and the molded” (Sam Vaknin) – hence the terms “mirror narcissist” or “inverted narcissist”. Inverted narcissists are much rarer and harder to identify than the boastful, arrogant “classic” narcissist. Surprisingly for a narcissist, the inverted type is self-effacing and/or introverted.”
I will say from personal experience that I disagree with two points above.
That they are very rare. I feel the number of them has been increased, due to several societal influences
It neglects to utilize Sam Vankin’s assessment, which is that the inverted narcissist is, themselves, a narcissist Since he coined the classification, he should know.
But let’s get back to the point at hand. One of the ways a narcissist, or inverted narcissist, such as Chris Exeris, manipulate others is in the playing the victim role, as can be seen above. “But”, you may ask, “If they are always needing to be in the dominant role, if they are always manipulating you, how does being a victim benefit them?” Well, it seems that playing victim, and I know this from experience, as Ania Anicca / Ania Ziolkowska did this all the time, the flip flop, the yo-yo, from victim, to dominance, to victim, it is merely another manipulation:
“Another way that the narcissist’s ego gets special attention is through the role of being a victim.
Welcome to the victimized extreme narcissist.
Most persons recognize ego as arrogance. At the same time they fail to see the subtle deception of ego when it takes the role of a being a victim. As kind and compassion-driven human beings, we easily are fooled by this form of extreme ego. We are constantly hearing the voices of the needy in the media through a variety of forms. The disenfranchised, the poor, the homeless, the hurting, the refugees, the abused, and the list goes on. What we often do not see is that we are many times shamed by these voices for not doing enough for them. All along it is easy to be manipulated as we respond from our hearts. The deception of the ego is that the narcissist can hide behind misfortune and victimization in order to shame you into feeling and believing that they suffer more than you do.
They will say that you don’t care enough for them.
They will make you feel that you have not done enough to help them.
The ego wants attention, control, gain, and power over others by positioning itself as a “poor and helpless” victim. It does this; all the while it soaks up the attention and control over others. In the eyes of an extreme narcissist, their situation is always right and totally justified. Instead of taking responsibility for self and consequences, the extreme narcissist tries to make others feel responsible for their plight. Because extreme narcissists are incredibly adept at the game of manipulation, they will always find a way to turn the tables on you.
They will try to make you responsible and feel guilty for not helping them or taking their side and cause. ~ Samuel Lopez de Victoria, PhD
As we can see by the description above, we must recognize that Chris Exeris (Christopher Michael Sevanick) hit’s all the red flags of an inverted narcissist that quickly adopts the victim role in order to manipulate others. And this has served him quite well.
It’s gotten him a stolen relationship with a rent free home in Poland, hasn’t it?
And that’s the point. Just as he manipulated praise out of everyone in that thread above, he manipulated Ania to provide him his haven. Now, we must realize she always planned to hook someone, more than likely Chris, to come back to Poland with her, to be the breadwinner, so she could be the “housewife”, not required to do anything at all, however, Chris, realizing this, has completely flipped that script upon her, and is definitely taking advantage of the situation.
Of course, we have already established that Ania is also an Inverted Narcissist, therefore this is a game of whom is actually using whom. The reality is Ania has the “control” because the home in Poland is hers, left to her by her family, after her grandmother died (all she really wanted out of her grandmother in the first place), while he has an almost equal amount of control by being the one that comes back to the USA to try to make money, occasionally, so they can take advantage of the 2 to 1 exchange rate of Poland. And we must also recognize that by the same instance, the psytrance culture he associates in, made up mostly of Eastern Europeans (Primarily Russians, though there are some Polish), is also a vipers nest of Inverted Narcissists, preying and feeding upon one another, but it is Chris (and maybe Ontonca) and Ania that have always used the victim ploy, as a way to manipulate these flying monkeys for them. We shall visit upon how Ania also manipulates others for narcissistic supply, and has since childhood, in upcoming blogs, the sheer and utter hypocrisy of ALL narcissists (and spiritual narcissists), as well as how they, as does all of psytrance culture, support Israel in the mass murder of civilians in Gaza. Until next time…….
“Psychopaths, narcissists, and sociopaths are experts at flattery & charm. Although it feels amazing at first, this idealization is actually responsible for just as much damage as the abuse itself. They set a trap, and it’s a trap that no unsuspecting victim could hope to escape from.
1) By idealizing you, they can expect this attention & adoration to rebound very quickly. Their love-bombing ultimately results in a very quick bond, one where you fall fast and give back all of the “love” you are receiving. In your mind, this individual truly becomes the most passionate, perfect soul mate you could ever imagine. You feel and express this love on a daily basis.
2) You share your excitement about this relationship with all of your friends and family. Often times, they already have a front row seat for this constant flattery. Sites like Facebook ensure that the mutual idealization is visible to the world. It feels good to have our vanities stroked, ignited by all of this public praise. [sic]”
The post above may seem benign, however, it becomes less so, when one is learned and observant enough to understand the modus behind this methodology.
To truly understand what is happening here, we shall reference the observations of Leon F Seltzer, PhD –
“But praise has its dark side, too. Much more than we typically realize, it can constitute a kind of verbal bribery, offered primarily to serve the interest of the person offering it. This post will suggest six ways that praise might be disbursed with the hidden intention of winning your favor, or wrangling something out of you—something you probably wouldn’t be willing to grant otherwise.
If you’re insecure, and so require external confirmation to feel worthwhile or good about yourself, you’ll be especially susceptible to (or a “target” for) disingenuous praise with invisible strings (or a price tag) attached to it. Such praise comes at a cost. Exploitive praisers prey on those with self-esteem deficiencies and seem to have radar for detecting them, They know exactly how to raise your confidence—and reduce your uncertainty—through flattering machinations ultimately designed not for your welfare but their own.”
Or there’s this
“Of course, you needn’t automatically assume that every time someone pays you a compliment they are trying to manipulate you into something, but someone who pays you a lot of compliments, particularly if they never did much before may be trying to coax you into something. Watch for sugary compliments in regards to your valuable skills, knowledge and experiences.”
“A manipulator know that if they make themselves seem like your biggest supporter, and number one fan, you are more likely to feel somewhat indebted to them. Be wary if someone constantly seems to brag on your abilities and accomplishments. You are possibly being manipulated without even realizing it!”
Okay, a little background.
Ania Anicca / Ania Ziolkowska, is herself a narcissistic sociopath, though, in my experience, one of the dumbest and most easily manipulated that I have ever known.
I’ll always remember one of her last statements to me, after she had delved head first into yoga, Vipassana meditation, psytrance, and all the brainwashing those toxic environments provide –
“I’m listening to myself, now”
As WE delve further into past history, where we will begin to illustrate others, such as Eva Annika Backstrom, Uzi Grindler, Debora Jackson, Masuda Mohamadi (the owner of Radiance Yoga), and even Christoff Ziolkowska, Ania’s own father, and how she would tell me she was listening to herself, while actually following the instructions of everyone else but her own mind.
You know that guy, the guy that hangs around your girlfriend, (or, in this case, WIFE), and says things like
“If anything ever happens to (insert your name here) I’ll always be there for you…..”
That, in it’s entirety, is Chris Exeris / Chris Sevanick / Christopher Michael Sevanick.
Love bombing is an attempt to influence a person by lavish demonstrations of attention and affection. The phrase can be used in different ways. Members of the Unification Church (who reportedly coined the expression) use or have used it themselves to mean a genuine expression of friendship, fellowship, interest, or concern. Critics of cults use the phrase with the implication that the “love” is feigned and the practice is manipulative. It has also been used to refer to abusers in romantic relationships showering their victims with praise, gifts, and affection in the early stages of a relationship.
Love Bombing is a tool that narcissistic sociopaths, such as Ania and Chris use, and use well, until you know precisely what it is.
As for “Amazing Communication”, something that will be revisited later, Ania cannot blame ME for that –
It’s a trap, a snare, one they lay on thicker than a child icing their first baked cake with their mother.
And one they both used on one another, as can be seen by the screen shot above, and this, below
This is a walk they took on their first night in New York City, which is something Ania has her mates do every time she cons them to moving to a new city
Okay, enough of that. This is about Chris Exeris, and how he manipulates others, in this case, with praise and flattery.
Which brings us back to Love Bombing.
The definition above is a good synopsis, however there are better, more descriptive explanations –
This can take many forms. Excessive texting, constant comments on your social network page, emails, telephone calls, or just literally bombarding you verbally in face to face communication. He might overwhelm you with gifts and will constantly flatter you. It feels overwhelming, you are swept off your feet.
At first you will not perceive this as bombardment. You will initially be flattered that he is paying so much attention to you. He will leave you small love notes, send you sweet texts, it is like something from a movie. That’s because it is like that, its more fiction than reality.
Already he has assessed you, and he is now mirroring you, so he is reflecting back to you exactly what you want to hear. But he wants control over you. He wouldn’t have your full attention or control, if you were busy doing other things.
Or, from the same source
“Love bombing is effective, as it moves the relationship forward very quickly. You might spend 10 hours talking on a telephone conversation. Or might receive constant text messages during the day. Numerous emails, or Facebook contact.
- He is really keen on me
- He is really like me, we have so many common interests
- You have known him for far longer than you actually have
It is important for the sociopath to move the relationship forward very quickly. If he didn’t you might notice that there is a lack of friends from his past. You might notice that he doesn’t actually have a job. You might notice that he doesn’t actually earn what he says he does.
His motive, is always control. By love bombing you, he effectively, in a very short space of time, has control over you. Ownership. He isolates you from other people. You can, within a very short space of time, feel that you have been with someone for 3 years, or that have that feeling that you have known this person all of your life. This gives you the false impression that this man is your soul mate. Someone special, that you do not want to let go of. It feels good.“
And it’s that flattery, that “feel good factor”, that they use to get you to do whatever they want.
I find it humorous, almost baffling, that Ania did not even notice her same tool, her trick, being used on her, as she has used it on so many before her, however, that is precisely what has happened.
Chris uses a similar tool on so many others. It’s how he has so many so devoted to him.
So easy to stroke the Id, that no one even bothers to see if it is real, or genuine, or not…….
Having all this attention, will feel good. In your mind, you reason that this is the right person. This is special. This is my soul mate. We rarely want to let go of that ‘feel good’ feeling. And not forgetting that a sociopath will often target someone who has needs, perhaps they are lonely. And he walks in and fulfills this part more than well.
Within a short period of time, he will be staying at your place regularly. Your friends and family might raise an eyebrow at how quickly this has progressed. But you reassure them, thinking, ‘they do not know how this feels, it feels so absolutely RIGHT’.”
And this following part applies to both of them. I mean, Ania needed a place to live, without begging back to me and actually apologizing, and Chris needed the extra funds to move to NYC (But we’ll go into the details of that in a later blog).
And, how else could the failure of a tour he’s been on for a year (which has mostly been Poland and Berlin), been accomplished, if Ania’s family didn’t have an apartment in Warsaw (her expired grandmother’s old home, that we were supposed to live in, and raise our children in)?
Of course Chris has out manipulated Ania.
That post was made so it won’t seem as though Chris is COMPLETELY living off of Ania…….
However, if that doesn’t hit home, there’s also this one
Not too long ago (2012), Chris was speaking as though he was the one buying a new laptop, however, how did that happen, if his is still 6 years old?
And then you realize, and I do have the post where Ania says so, as she was literally GIVING him HER laptop, to take to the Sahara desert, that Ania bought the laptop, probably from whatever she had left from the 401K she used me to cash out, so he could use it.
Of course, this begs the question of how Chris can help anyone buy a laptop, when he doesn’t even know how to fix one?
I always fixed our computers when Ania was abusing me.
But, the interesting development, is that he’s recently begun to come forward and state it’s Ania’s Laptop, and not his own.
Wonder what brought that on?
Because she now controls where they live and how they live and he doesn’t?
But, again, I digress…..
See, Chris manipulates Ania, through flattery and Love Bombing, so she will continue to “buy” his love, just as he manipulates others the same exact way.
It’s amazing how many have not even bothered to notice this, because, like Ania, they are so desperate to have their egos stroked, they never bother to see that they are actually being manipulated.
He turned the tables on her, and her codependency has allowed him to manipulate her to no end.
This is the emotional abuser’s trap. They are invincible. They groom you to shower them with praise & adoration, so you effectively checkmate yourself once the abuse begins. Survivors often find their own friends taking the side of their abuser. It’s devastating, and this trap is the final nail in the psychopathic coffin.
She is, in essence, His “Cash Cow”.
And why buy that cow, when you can get the milk, the barn, and even her own grain, for free, right?
Truth be told, I have several other examples of this, and may revisit this in a future time, however, to be honest, I truly despise formatting in wordpress, which is why I don’t write as often as I would like.
I keep wanting to get back to this, and many distractions keep popping up.
For this, I apologize.
There’s many entries, on the horizon, such as how Chris Exeris / Chris Sevanick manipulates with compliments, how Ania Anicca / Ania Ziolkowska has no personality of her own, only those she steals from her duped mates, and those she knows, even how both have been nothing but pawns for Eva Annika Backstrom, and Uzi Grindler.
And it would not be complete without showing the utter lack of passion Chris Exeris has for what he has claimed as his profession, and merely does it for the attention he assumed it would gain him.
All of these instances are to illustrate how narcissists function in every day life, and how they deserve none of our pity, though they would like you to believe otherwise.
We’re even working on a youtube channel, to increase our reach, and provide a format of education for everyone.
I promise that all of this is coming, but to know at least ONE of the things that has consumed my time in these last few weeks, I will leave you with this:
It’s a project I was working on.
It took three days to complete, and is entered in a competition.
Stop by, have a listen, and even leave a comment, if you like it.
I will get back to the blog, as soon as there is some order to this disorder. Until then, happy listening!!!
Apologies to all who have wondered where my posts have been, as I know I have promised that I would be back on track
It’s been a busy week
Mostly, I’ll let the accompanying video begin to explain what has become a culmination of explanations and discoveries, or serendipity, all unfolded this past weekend.
For our two friends in Poland, whom check this blog at least twice a week……………
………………………..It’s probably best you understand that nothing I do has any affect on your success, or lack there of.
However, I do have an interesting surprise for all parties involved, as well as the learning of some interesting revelations, such as the classic narcissistic dumping of anyone not able to be swayed to their side, which we saw the effort to do, back in one of our first posts.
So, for the two of you, and all interested in what the delays to new posts may have been, I will provide a snapshot of what my last two weeks have been in preparation toward.
Be patient, and wait till the end.
All will be revealed then.
It’s only three minutes, after all.
And to everyone else, I will be striving to get back on track, in the NEW format, as soon as possible, right after I work on a track I am producing, and process the thousand pics I took at the Movement Electronic Music Festival 2014 in Photoshop.
I stopped cold, my heart stopped, I nearly dropped the muffler on my head.
I was frozen, and it was over 75 degrees F
I just couldn’t believe she said it.
Someone I cared about, and was willing to die for, and would have done anything for, using the worst possible term in the worst possible way, for no reason at all.
If I had attacked Ania Ziolkowska, now going by “Ania Anicca” (A subject to be touched on in another entry), I could almost understand it.
Hell, if I had called her a bitch or a cunt, it might have been justified.
But that’s not what happened.
All I did was ask her, for the third time
“Ania, could you please hold the flashlight lower? I can’t see what I’m doing.”
THAT is what got the response that opens this experience.
We had bought a Jaguar XJ-S, a 1989, from a gentleman in Connecticut, and driven it back to Woodbridge, VA, where we both lived.
Ania has just been fired from the position I had arranged for her to get, when she was let go from a receptionist position she had been doing a week before.
So she would not have to wait for me, I gave her the keys to the Jag, and told her she could go home and get me later, when I got off.
We worked at the same place.
It turns out that one of the exhaust hangers, a special order item, had rusted through, and the muffler fell off, and Ania had been dragging it behind her.
The FIRST thing I told Ania, when she told me what had happened, was it wasn’t her fault.
It could have happened to ANYONE, it just happened to happen to her.
Not her fault.
I didn’t blame her, and I told her so.
Apparently that didn’t matter.
“FUCK YOU, YOU IGNORANT ASS NIGGER!!”
That’s what I got, from the blonde haired, blue eyed, Polish, white girl, while I was lying under the car, in a Wal-Mart parking lot, trying to find a way to hang the muffler, so we could get home, no longer dragging it under us.
And it wasn’t the last time Ania Ziolkowska, Ania Anicca, or whatever she wants to call herself now, as she vagabonds around the world, scamming family members, pretending she is suddenly a “spiritual yogini”, committing adultery with the ugliest white guy anyone has ever seen, Chris “Exeris” Sevanick
“He looks like a thumb….”
That was one of the most recent descriptions, by my 21 year old female friend, before she showed the picture of “Exeris” (my god, these nicknames, they do not FIT. The latin it comes from is everything BUT an accurate description of HIM…..) to her friends, and her girlfriend.
“He is NOT an attractive man.”
Is another description of “Exeris” (I’m sorry, but I chuckle every time I see the name, type the name, HEAR THE NAME) was the description given by several other females that have seen him.
But I digress.
This is not about THAT joke of a human being, but about Ania Ziolkowska, Racist Covert Stealth Narcissist Sociopath.
We could say one could not fault Ania, due to her father, Christoff Ziolkowska (whom Ania attempted to fool me for YEARS, into believing his name was “Ziolkowski”, however the name on their Deed to their house, is “Ziolkowska”. Ania tried Gaslighting for YEARS…..), also being a racist.
The first time I met him, I was standing in their second home (yes, Ania’s family is comfortably well off, I didn’t learn till MUCH later, while Christoff would complain how hard it was to make it in this country, but has a sailing yacht, and for years, two homes, completely paid off, and in relatively high dollar areas of Lake Ridge, VA) standing in front of him with my three year old niece, reaching out my hand to shake his.
“Get out of my house.”
Was all I got in return.
Not even a hand shake.
As I walked out, I just chuckled……..
………….and then had to explain to a three year old what racism was.
But I wasn’t the only black man Ania Ziolkowska had ever dated.
There was one before me.
And, apparently, Ania’s father, Christoff, liked him, probably because he was lighter than me, probably because his father worked for one of the alphabet agencies in DC, probably because he had had a trust fund, that Ania promptly conned and cajoled him into spending……..ON HER.
Ania Ziolkowska bled him dry.
I should have realized THEN what Ania was, but I still didn’t.
I was blinded by love………..
THAT will NEVER happen again.
Ania never apologized.
I should be fair……Ania never apologized without being told she NEEDED to apologize.
This was a constant issue with Ania, the fact she would do horrendous things to you, THINGS SHE WOULD NOT ALLOW DONE TO HER, and she would NEVER apologize.
I waited to see if she would realize what she did was wrong. If she would have any sense of remorse, any awareness to even NOTICE HOW IT AFFECTED ME.
I waited a week
She did not care.
Ania Anicca / Ania Ziolkowksa did not have one iota of care, of empathy, of compassion, for how she treated me, at all.
Ania’s only concern was Ania.
I finally told her she needed to apologize for what she said, for what she did.
“But, I thought that was okay? Like when someone says ‘Nigga, please!’ That’s not okay?”
Okay, hold on a second.
I know we should get on to what the worth is of an apology you have to ask for, but let’s hold off on THAT for a second.
The real issue here is how do you live in the suburbs of Woodbridge, Virginia, go to the high school WE BOTH went to, live in the United States since you were SEVEN YEARS OLD, NOW TWENTY EIGHT (at the time), and NOT know that you don’t say that to a black man, especially one that has never conducted himself as the average black man (the stereotype), and is someone you claim to love??????
And I, stupidly falling for this act, explained to her how they were different things, and it was NOT okay.
But, even after all of this, that wasn’t the last time she did it.
That wasn’t the last time Ania Anicca / Ania Ziolkowska called me a nigger, unprovoked, and uncalled for.
(To be continued)
You deserve a treat after all of that, so here you go.
- Identifying Individuals with Antisocial Personality Disorder Using Resting-State fMRI (plosone.org)
- Surprising Myths & Facts About Antisocial Personality Disorder (psychcentral.com)
- Antisocial personality disorder: the hidden epidemic (oup.com)
- Antisocial Personality Disorder…being aware of the signs (jou300202.wordpress.com)
- Ashley Smith was textbook case of antisocial personality disorder, inquest told (globalnews.ca)
- Does Capitalism teach, reinforce, and even promote Antisocial Personality Disorder? (anarchoworld.wordpress.com)
- Snakes in Suits? Maybe Not – Psychopathy According to DSM-IV TR (workplacepsychology.net)
- Childhood Bullying Causes Long-Term Psychiatric Damage (medicaldaily.com)
- Hold Up, One Last Word…..On Yoga and Racism (MommyNoire.com)
- Why I Left Yoga (Energyreader.wordpress.com)
- Yoga and Racism Part I (bri11.wordpress.com)
- Yoga and Racism Part II (bri11.wordpress.com)
- Is Psytrance Crowd a Little Racist? Just a Thought (chaishop.com)
- Psychedelic White: Goa Trance and the Viscosity of Race (books.google.com)
- Netanyahu Turns Israel into a Racist State by Law (imemc.org)
- Racism in Israel (thenation.com)
- Red Card for Racism: Activists Demand FIFA Kick out Israel (mondoweiss.com)
- Racism Alive and Well (raaw.wordpress.com)
- Yep, I’m Talking Race (lyngala.wordpress.com)
- Racist Filipinos (itssophiesworld.wordpress.com)
- April 22, 2014 (iinmediasres.wordpress.com)
- Zagoa Festival 2014 (mushroom-magazine.com)
- New Hampshire Police Commissioner Refuses to Apologize or Resign for Calling President Obama the N-Word (NYDailyNews.com)
- Updated: Racist Woman Repeatedly Calls N-Word in Front of Kids, is Confused Why He’s Recording Her (YouTube, Obviously) (Complex.com)
- Woman Unleashes Racist Attack While Her Children Watch (Update) (HuffingtonPost.com)
- Louis Vuitton Accused of Racism, Slapped with Racial Discrimination & Harassment (HuffingtonPost.com)
We usually avoid any type of political post, however, we find this to be very important to EVERYONE in the world, and, in a way, if we think of a sociopathic entity, without empathy for others in any way, it still lends itself to our mission, which is to illustrate in all ways possible how we have normalized Sociopathy and Narcissism within modern humanity.
We feel it’s worth the 23 minutes to watch this video.